Friday, December 17, 2010

Can you feel overwhelmed & accomplished at the same time?

We can, and we do! Last night was our second meeting with the psychiatrist. Our "homework" was to highlight something we found interesting in one of our adoption books that we have for mandatory reading through Bethany. So we did just that and Mike picked his and I did mine. My passage was about how to be confident in your role as a parent when the child questions there birth family. This was something I first struggled with but honestly the books have opened my eyes to how important that conversation can be. Anyways Dr "Bob" drilled us on how we will tell our child, if its ok to lie to them, when to tell, are all children lovable and what it all came down to was he wanted to make sure we wouldn't back down that we stood firm on what we believe in and that together Mike & I are on the same page. Last night Mike and I were definitely on a team we felt picked on, aggravated, hurt, nervous, anxious, mad, and at one point just wanted to get up and leave, thankfully God locked that door because in the end he gave us as he put it "AAA+ Excellent" we don't even have to see him again except to pick up our final written report. How great is that! Our last part of the psychiatrist report  is to have a personality test conducted but that's easy peezy compared to those interviews. I have to say the hardest part for Mike and I so far has been this. Colombia looks very highly about what one person thinks of you and on top of that pressure it can not be overly religious. Our decisions, morals, values are all based on our faith and to have to explain to someone else why or why not you would do something in earthly terms is quite difficult. For example he asked if we would tell our child they were chosen? We said yes and of course he had to say that telling a child that puts pressure on them to be perfect and then what does that mean for all the children not chosen, almost as if the child feels guilty. We however know that God choose them for us, it was not a matter of  us walking through and orphanage and picking the "best" one; and although we could not explain that in our religious way to the Dr. we know in our hearts that our child is chosen and our lives will collide one day for a purpose much greater than we will ever expect.
Things are slowly getting checked off our to do list and it feels wonderful, what a Merry Christmas!

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